“I’m not going to spend my dignity to protect this family’s reputation.

If the reputation was that important, somebody should have mentioned it to him in July.”

We told the children on the second Saturday.

Dr.

Petrosyan — who I had found before I needed her, on Ruth’s advice, which is the single best piece of practical guidance anybody gave me that year — spent an hour with me on the phone beforehand, and what she said was this:

“They will ask you three questions.