So that is what I have done.

The formulation I ended up with, and which I have said perhaps two hundred times, is: He was a good father to you and he tried to kill me, and both of those are true, and you don’t have to pick.

The first year that sentence made him furious.

Somewhere in the second year it stopped doing that.

He has chosen not to have contact.

That was entirely his decision, made at sixteen, after two letters arrived and were read by Dr.