The other was a woman named Simone Ekwueme, who is a forensic accountant, and who said perhaps nine words in the first hour and then reorganized my entire understanding of what had happened to my firm.

The first thing Hollis Dunmore said was: “Before anything else.

Is this a custody matter or a securities matter?”

I said I did not follow.

He said: “You have two problems and they have different clocks and different rules and different people, and the single most common way this goes wrong is that a man tries to run them as one thing.

“Your daughter is a family court matter and a possible DCF matter and it is urgent and it is emotional and it is the one that actually matters to you.