“Not at all.

You did not pay a single dollar toward their burial plots.

You did not fold Samuel’s small shirts into boxes with your own hands.

You did not sit alone in an empty house at night, holding Jonathan’s clothes to your face just to remember what he smelled like.

You did not process three death certificates or explain to a stranger on the phone, again and again, that all three of them were gone.

You could not even drive twenty minutes across town to sit in a church pew for one hour.