He handed me an exposure he had specifically wondered about, and did not tell me, and then wrote me four pages of exhaustive moral accounting that did not mention it.

And the reason it is not in the letter is not that he forgot.

It is that a man can be brave enough to confess the thing that makes him look manipulative and not brave enough to confess the thing that makes him look like a burden.

Part Thirty-Seven: Forgiveness Is Not On the Table

People ask me whether I have forgiven him, and about four out of five of them have already decided the answer and are waiting to be agreed with.

The answer is no, and I have stopped softening it.