That is not it, and I worked out that it is not it about four minutes into sitting next to Arthur.

Not offering is not the opposite of imposing.

It is the same failure with better manners.

It is still one person deciding, privately, what another person is going to be allowed to be asked for.

What he actually wrote was ask them.

So I turned my head and I said: “There’s a coffee here I’m not going to drink.

It’s black, no sugar.

Do you want it, or would you rather I didn’t?”