To my genuine surprise, my mother accepted every rule without a single argument.

And during one afternoon visit, she brought a bag of groceries into the kitchen, and she did not reorganize my pantry, and she did not move a single mug.

Instead she stood by the island, looked at me with a soft, uncertain smile, and asked a question so small it should have meant nothing.

“Where would you like me to put these, Charlotte?” Such an ordinary question.

And it held more weight than she could possibly have known, because it was the whole of everything my family had failed to do for seven months, distilled into six words. Where would you like. Not: I have decided.