If she had told a child to wait somewhere out of the way and it had gone wrong, that was a mistake, and mistakes are survivable, and I would have married her and we would have spent two years fixing it.

But my daughter had just told me, in order, four things.

That her presence would embarrass me.

That people would be uncomfortable seeing Rebecca’s daughter.

That she had to stop being the most important girl in my life.

That if it came to a choice I would choose Pamela, and that this would be Hannah’s fault.