“I remember that your husband was devastated and engaged and asked good questions.

I remember your mother-in-law crying.

I remember that we offered the time-limited trial twice because I always do and because families sometimes need to be told twice that they are allowed to say no to me.

“And I remember asking, at the start of the second meeting, whether we should wait for you.

“It is not in my note.

It is in Dr.

Tso’s note as his question and I have gone back and forth on whether I asked it as well or whether I am remembering his.