Jessica gave me a pair of comfortable gardening gloves and said, “I asked Helen what you actually wanted.”

I laughed.

“That was a very good idea.”

After lunch, Colin brought out one more envelope.

“Before you open it, don’t panic,” he said.

“It’s not another brochure.”

Inside was a card bearing a simple promise in his handwriting: One Saturday a month, I’ll bring lunch and help with whatever project you choose.

You are allowed to say no.