They Mistook My Grief for Weakness and My Silence for Permission — Until a Uniformed Officer Saluted Me at My Own Door
But it told me she had become, in her seventies, capable of a kind of honesty she had avoided her whole life, and that was worth more to me than the fixing would have been — because the fixing would have restored the past, and the honesty, at least, made a different future possible.
Chapter 19 — Audrey
Two months later my daughter was born, healthy and strong, at the base hospital, and I gave her Tristan’s mother’s name for her own middle name: Audrey.
My mother was eventually granted permission to visit her granddaughter, but under clear, non-negotiable rules, set in writing.
No surprise visits.
No questions about my assignments.
No criticism of how I chose to mourn.
No acting as a go-between for my father or my sister.